Saturday, April 9, 2011

How to suck the fun out of your hobbies

Lately I've been pondering the human penchant for taking anything fun (exercise, reading, blogging) and attaching scores and policies to it.  I like making lists and measuring things but isn't there a place for pure enjoyment too?

I started blogging in December and was bemused to google blogging shortly after I started and read very serious dictates on how I should be doing this.  Like William Hung on American Idol, "I have had no professional training of" blogging.  This isn't a business venture.  I want to find great blogs to read (check!) and share my thoughts in a community that responds.  All these "readership strategies" feel really forced and fake. 

Which brings me to my rant (boy I'm bitchy this week!).  I love giving and getting comments...the real ones.  But this copy and paste "follow me I'll follow you" bullshit has got to go.  I wish there was some way to hang a "no soliciting" sign on my blog (actually maybe I should make a badge for this).  It's incredibly rude and I just can't stand it anymore.  The people-pleasing side of me feels terrible about this, but I'm going to start deleting these comments when I get them. 

I don't understand it.  I want readers, people who are genuinely interested/ entertained/provoked by my writing and share their responses with me.  Why would you want a list of people on your sidebar who have no interest in you and never actually read your blog, and just put their name on your list so you'll put your name on their list?  Bizarre.

So to those who regularly read and comment, thank you!  Sometimes I'm slow at replying, but I read and appreciate every comment - your responses make my day :)  You rock!

16 comments:

  1. Ha. I got sucked into one of those "Let's all link up and follow each other" thingies once. Ugh. I'd rather have no comments at all than fake-o ones like that. :)
    -C

    PS - Thanks for your very thoughtful comment on my blog today. When possible, I like to email back replies directly to my comments, but your email address isn't set up for that. Pressing the "Post" button after writing "Confessions" was one of the toughest moments I've had since starting my blog.

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  2. I'm still somewhat new to the blogging community, but I get what you're saying about fake comments. While I found you on the Lady Bloggers Tea Party, I find your blog intriguing and an interesting read. I hope to find time in my crazy schedule to regularly read your posts and comment on them.

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  3. if you make a no soliciting badge...can i have it? i've had a couple of "those" comments too...totally irrelevent to my posts. i struggle with deleting them or leaving them so everyone else can get the same nasty taste in their mouths that i do.

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  4. Just stopping in to say I love you!!! I can always count on your comments on my blog posts to make me smile. Your posts somehow seem to say what I think a lot of the time, but you express those thoughts so well!

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  5. ok, btw, i don't want this to come off as being "spammy", but i just really enjoy your writing and so....I just awarded you with The Versatile Blogger Award!!! Congratulations! You can read about it and choose to accept it in my post here;

    http://whimsyandwhirlbytenetia.blogspot.com/2011/04/i-win-nanny-nanny-boo-boo.html

    i'm not offended if you choose not to accept either. just wanted you to know i enjoy your blog!

    ~Tenetia

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  6. Saying hi as part of the Say Hi Sunday Blog Hop even though its still Saturday :)

    And yup, I agree, I love when people decide to follow me, of course!, but not if its only to follow them back. Sure, the numbers are great but that's all they are, numbers. You need the friendships to go behind them...

    K-off to check out the rest of your blog, cheers!

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  7. Preach on Sister! I would rather have people say NOTHING than a spammy comment. I'm sure there are some who think that a spammy comment is better than no comment. I'm not in that boat.
    If I write a post and you actually read it, there must be something better to say than, "Ya. Interesting. Follow me!"

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  8. I feel ya, girlfriend.

    My favorite comments are the "I'm a work-from-home business woman and reading your blog I think I have a great way to solve all your problems - you can sell blah blah blah" Really? I sell some shit for you and it's going to solve all MY problems? Come on.

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  9. Thanks so much for following my blog!!:) I am going to enjoy following yours!!:) I agree so much with what you wrote!! It is so true!!

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  10. Hmmm... I've been blogging for almost 6 years now, I think, and I still have only 9 followers. But that's OK. I've never read a thing about how I "should" blog and almost everyone who reads my blog is someone I know in real life. I find that for the most part, I only read blogs of people I know or have known in real life, too. I suppose the blogosphere is different things for different people. We all get something different out of it. For some people what they seem to get is a good feeling about having a big readership, regardless of weather those readers actually care about what they have to say or not. For me, the blogosphere is a place to keep up with people I have cared about in the past and to more deeply understand people I am currently connected to in real life.

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  11. I think you'll find a majority of real bloggers actually want this out of blogging, not the fake crap.

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  12. Hi there, just found your blog through FTLOB. I so agree with you here!!! Bizarre is the word! I wonder why I've never seen your blog before, if you've been on FTLOB?! I love it! Will be back to read more! Have a lovely day.

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  13. I just found you and I won't lie....still considering following...I too only follow those I really enjoy reading....and if someone writes a lot.

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  14. I just found your blog through ftlob and I totally agree....I do blog hops sometimes in hopes that I find something I actually enjoy or that someone else will find and enjoy my blog and instead I get "Wow! What a nice blog you have! Follow me!". And I'm all "did you see what this fricken thing is ABOUT????". Answer: no

    Anyway, I'm following 'cause I think you're a hoot. FTLOB is awesome :)

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  15. Amen, sister! I hate that...it's so annoying and I get usually one or two of those per week. It's rude and it doesn't make me want to follow them, it makes me NOT want to follow them. Anyway, stick with FTLOB...it's awesome. I love the ladies there and they are in it for true friendship, and I have found some great ones. Every once in a while I miss a few posts, and I really miss them! :) Haha! Your feature post on there was so cute...and girl, keep wearing those shoes!!! LOL!

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  16. Glad to know I'm not alone in my blogging philosophy! I still feel bad when someone asks for a follow back and I don't comply, but it is what it is.

    And FTLOB is great!! My favourite community by far - I just find this group a lot more genuine than others.

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