Wednesday, April 20, 2011

We Want to Know Wednesday

I'm joining a new link-up this week, hosted by Dandelion Wishes, Impulsive Addict, the Johanson Journey and Seriously Shawn.  New to me, that is - I love finding new linkys!


The theme of the Q&A this week is Friendship:

{1} Do you make friends easily?
No, and I've never understood why.  It gets harder and harder the older I get.  I often meet people I'd like to hang out with, but I don't know how to turn an acquaintance into a friend.  Between S. and working full-time, I don't have much time for socializing in person now, so blogging is great.
{2} What 3 qualities are a must in a friend?
Loyalty.  Loyalty.  Loyalty.  And by that, I mean not leaving me sitting by myself with a plate of cooling hor d'oeuvres and an unusually clean house after I invited you over, and not even bothering to call to tell me you're not coming.  Being stood up hurts, whether it's a friend or a date.
{3} What makes you a good friend?
I would drop everything to help a friend in crisis (and have in the past).  I love hearing people's stories, good and bad, and I think people like to talk to someone who's interested in them.  I have a wicked sense of humour and have been told I'm entertaining ;)
{4} Have you ever met a bloggy friend in real life?
No, but I'd like to.  Maybe someday.
{5} Who is your best friend? Tell us about them.
My husband J. is my best friend, and I've often thought he would be even if we weren't romantic, which is a good base for a marriage.  'Cause let's face it, we don't all stay smokin' hot forever.  He's kind, an amazing father and loves laughing and joking around.  We also have the same beliefs and values, and show love the same ways (there's a great book on this called Five Love Languages).  I'm so thankful I met him at 16 and got to grow up with him.



  1. Yay... I think you are our first linker upper...besides the co hosts. Thanks so much for joining in. blogging is great for making friends. I totally agree on the loyalty thing. So true.

  2. Oh and you and your hubby are adorable!

  3. It definitely seems like the older I get, the harder it is. Though, I sometimes think I put in less effort now too.

  4. I love that your husband is your bestie! I meet my husband at 16 too, it's been 25 years now and we're still going strong.

    I'm assuming Sasha, great name, is your daughter. Are you in a play group? If not find one, Moms your age with similar lives, easy friendships right there!

    Thanks for linking up!

  5. The love languages book is one of my favs!!!

    I completely agree with the loyalty. I'm so sad that someone stood you up! That's horrible. Karma is a b!

    Thanks for linking up!! =)

  6. Very sweet post! It does get harder as we get older to find friends... at least ones that will be there for you no matter what. Anymore than 5 bestie's and I think I would falter...just hard to keep up with it all! Thanks for linking up with us!! :)

  7. I learned long ago, to just let things go, if they are going to stand you up, well what kind of friend are they really, there are better people out there worth your friendship

    Thanks for sharing

  8. I agree! Loyalty loyalty loyalty! I need my friends to be with me good or bad and not just becuz I'm always the one buyin'!

  9. I've noticed too as I've gotten older that it's extremely difficult to meet new people, it's frustrating. I like to keep busy and I try to be social, but I'm not good at it, haha

    I'm with you on being stood up, I hate being stood up. I know life happens but, you can at least send me a quick text or phone call to let me know.

    You and your husband are so cute!

  10. I'm shy and that hampers meeting people. Love blogging because it takes all that uncomfortable face to face stuff out of the equation.

  11. Totally great that you have a husband that is your best friend. They are the best kind!

  12. aww that story of you being stood up is so SAD. What a jerkface! I hope you let that friend have it. Being stood up sucks.
    I have a hard time turning an acquaintance into a friend too. If you figure out the secret let me know!

  13. I completely agree with the calling thing. Everyone has a cell phone superglued to their hands these days, so it is really not that difficult to send a quick text saying, "Hey, I'm running late," or "Sorry, can't make it tonight."

  14. The blog is very good!

  15. I know it's taking me a while to get to this, but this is a cool post and you like like you are a lot of fun to hang out with!

  16. Aww beautiful photos of you both - very happy photos! (via Mingle Monday)

  17. Building friendship takes time and unfortunately, as we grow older, this is something that we seem to have less of but girlfriends are important, to our health and to our mental well-being, so we must take the time.

    You are lucky that your husband is also your friend, though, and that you have grown together.

    You sound like you would be a great friend!

  18. I love that your best friend is your husband. Mine too! He is the best friend I will ever ever have. Married love, nurtured over time, struggles, challenges, joys, bliss. It really rocks.

  19. Great post and thoughts. I love new linkys too. Interestingly enough, I think I had more friends when my kids were younger...we got together, the kids played, etc.
    I found most of mine at church and neighbors. I wouldn't know where to find a playgroup.
    Love the 5 Language book as well. And I too am happy for your friendship with your husband, that is a blessing.

  20. Different life stages do change our needs for numbers of friends and our pool of available candidates. The more Sasha is doing the more you'll be "out there" in places with people your age and with similar interests. But I have got to say after 26 yrs of marriage, that you are doing well to be married to a friend. Makes life so much more fun!

  21. #4 might be your answer for #1. I have about 4 really close friends who I met online first. We were on WeddingChannel in thier wedding planning message boards & then the parenting boards/journals. But they ended up being truly solid friends who have lasted. Give it a go!

  22. I've never been very good at making friends either...or keeping them it seems. I get frustrated with the amount of support and energy I put into a relationship and the amount I "get back." To me a friendship is a lot like a marriage: it's give and take. But it seems I've always been on the giving end and never on the taking.

    Anyway, I can totally understand your frustration about friends. Oh, and my best friend is my husband Jeremy, too :)

    Thanks for linking up, Ixy!

  23. I'll agree that friendships seem to go through many changes as we get older. The hubs and I have people in our lives that we are close with but no "besties" as it goes. I miss having a best friend since the one person who held that spot died a few years ago. Now, everyone has their own agenda; guess I do as well.

    Maybe I just don't want the pain of saying good-bye to a best bud.


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