Sunday, July 31, 2011

I wanna feel the breeze

Yesterday I started a mini naked revolution.  One of the things I like best about myself as I get older is that I truly don't care about societal rules of thumb and judgments from others. 


All that rejection and bullying throughout my life shaped me to understand that no matter how hard I tried, some people were just not going to be an Azara fan.  Once I got past the hurt of that realization and the guilt of losing my religion, it was incredibly liberating.  Now the only person whose opinion I care about is mine and it's a fantastic way to live.  Not necessarily selfish, because I have standards for my behaviour and how it impacts J. and S., and I don't like myself if I'm being an asshole.  But I digress...

Last night I went with a group of ladies to a water spa for my friend's bachelorette, and since my bikini doesn't fit post-S., I went in the saltwater pool nude once I'd confirmed the sight wouldn't irreparably traumatize the bride-to-be.  Imagine my surprise when four of the other women promptly removed their bathing suits.  Everyone had wanted to go au naturel, but was too shy to do so.  Azara strikes again - woot woot!


I've always been very comfortable with nudity and really prefer not to wear clothes.  It's not about exhibitionism - I don't want people to stare at me.  I just enjoy the feeling of air, sun and water on my bare skin.  I tried to talk J. into going to a nudist colony because I'd really like to sunbathe with nothing on, but he's resisted so far.  Boo.  So the clothing-optional spa pool was super relaxing.

When I walk in the door from work, the first thing I do is divest myself of all restrictive fabric, the tension of the day flying off me along with my bra.  One of the reasons I detest people dropping by unexpectedly is because it means I have to go get dressed, which leaves them waiting for some time at the door. 

It will be a significant change for me when S. gets a little older and I start having to wear clothes around the house, which I feel is necessary.  I'm not sure why.  I do feel it's inappropriate to go around naked in front of your kids past a certain age, which is contradictory to everything I just said in this post.  I need to mull this over a bit more and figure out the reason for this feeling (yay, another chance to over-analyze something!).

now this does NOTlook comfy


What are your views on nudity?


20 comments:

  1. I'm right there with you. I come in the door and drop my work clothes - pants, shirt, bra, panties, and find one of the dozen light dresses I've got as "home clothes". Someone comes to the door - too bad for them, I'm not putting on a bra. I don't really have an opinion about nudity and children, as it's not a threshold I've had to cross personally so I've not put much thought into it, but I think one of the best things you can do for your daughter is make her not ashamed or self-conscious about her body. Seeing you comfortable in your own skin can only be good for her.

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  2. I'm all for nudity!

    We don't walk around much in the buff at home because we have housemates, but if everyone's comfortable with it, I don't think there's anything inherently wrong or harmful with being naked in front of your kids. It seems like many of the most well adjusted people I know, who are the most comfortable in their own skin, come from the most liberal families when it comes to nudity. I think it's important for kids to see REAL adult bodies.

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  3. I completely agree with you. You will never be liked by everybody and you will never be able to please everybody so as long as you feel good about the things you are doing and you and your family are protected then who cares what anybody else says. We hang out kind of naked here, it must have something to do with being raised in HOT COLOMBIA! LOL

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  4. Oh wow, all this naked talk. Me and some mates got drunk at a house party years ago and for a bet stripped off apart from our boots and went running around the streets at three in the morning. It felt very refreshing.

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  5. I'm the same way, I would so much rather be naked than clothed! When I'm home alone I'm the same way, strip right down to nothing, it's so much better that way. I also agree it's not about exhibitionism, for me it's about feeling the world so close to me.
    What you said about kids made me think, and it also made me realize I feel the same way about not walking around nude in front of my (future) children. I think though that it is mostly because I want them to make their own choices as to how they feel about life, not be influenced because they watched Mommy walk around naked all the time so they think it's normal.
    Love your blog btw, stopping by from Comment Love Day at FTLOB!

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  6. i only have a daughter & she's 9 now & i feel like it's fine for me to be naked around her. however, we're not fans of my husband being naked around her once she was old enough to start really checking things out. better to tuck that junk away into some underwear. also, my bra comes off as i walk in the door, but i don't like bare butts on the couch, so no going bottomless around here, but topless is fine.

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  7. Man, you would fit in perfectly with us right over in Europe :) North Americans are super prudey when it comes to nudey (hey, that rhymed! haha). Doesn't it just feel so good to, even at the very least, just strip off your bra at the end of the day. One of the best feelings. Way to bare it all and remove some of the stress while at it. BTW, did you ever receive the goodie package???

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  8. I'm all for it! Can't wait to get my own fricken place so I can just walk around naked whenever I want.

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  9. Hmmm... taking my bra off at the end of the day is one of the BEST FEELINGS EVER. Pre-kids I actually was able to get away with not wearing a bra all day long, but after kids, not so much. Anyhow, no one ever died from seeing some one else naked (although I agree with SherilinR up above - I don't like bare butts on my furniture.)

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  10. Good for you, girl!
    I can only hope, one day, I'll be as nude as you. I bet it's freeing!
    <3 Muffy.

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  11. I'm completely at ease with nudity. Doesn't bother me a bit. However I was raised in France so it was part of their culture. On TV when they sunbathe, on billboards. However since coming to America I have learned that society frowns on it here. (as did my parents there) So i keep my clothes on except when the kids are at school and no one is looking. lol As for you little one... You have to teach her societies rules unfortunately because she will have to be able to go to school and not shed her clothes, or not take her clothes off where some sicko will see her and hurt her. It's sad there are people out there like that though.

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  12. I wish I was at ease with nudity but nope - I so don't want to see nakedness let alone be naked. I'm not saying I think it is WRONG however. I'm just not at ease with it myself. Although years ago I was a little drunk and stoned and did skinny dip in the sea on holiday, with a girl friend and my boy-friend. That felt fabulous. So I think for me its just an inability to feel relaxed (unless I'm out of my tree ;D)

    Re the kid thing - no idea. Apparently Eric (out of True Blood - omg he's gorgeous) was raised in a home wear nudity was the norm - but I think they wear Scandinavian. Does that count? ;) XX

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  13. I wish I could say the same - but I can't. I've gotten MORE comfortable with it as I've gotten older and now that I live alone (I'll sleep naked if it's super hot, or go from one room to another naked to get something after taking a shower), but overall I don't like it. I don't like being naked, I don't like the way it feels, I don't like the lack of support, I don't like what other people could see.

    As for other people being naked, more power to them. I wish I was that brave!

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  14. I like the idea of being nude, but with a 5 year old running around the house most of the time and some really big windows facing the neighbors' houses, it really doesn't work here. I do often enjoy wearing no underwear under my clothing.

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  15. I don't necessarily want to go nude around the house, but whenever I am considering a home, I always think about if it is possible to go to the kitchen naked without a lot of fuss.

    I indulged in a little out of doors nudity 'back in the day'. No longer the thrill it once was. Not as 'viewable' anymore.

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  16. Well considering I sleep in a bra, I'm not even close to sharing your view - or the dude whose butt crack is on the bike at the gym. No thanks :-D Thanks my respectable opinion. But you know what? I would like to do that at a spa. I bet it feels wonderful. Visiting via TALU.

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    1. It was great! Wow, we are opposites. I can't imagine sleeping in my bra - maybe the nursing one, but definitely not my normal underwire one.

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  17. Hi Azara, I'm Anne, thanks for joining up with the TALU! Interesting views, not neccessarily that I share them, but interesting! I whip my bra off every chance I get and hate restrictive clothing, so I do know what you mean, but I have to say I'm more modest/shy when it comes to being exposed. Good ol' puritan upbringing at work, I guess.

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    1. I don't want anyone to see me, but at a spa/nude beach, the lure of relaxing completely free of clothes overrides my self-consciousness.

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  18. Hopping over again from TALU, and I have to say, I loved this post. I too have always been a happy nudist. LOVE those clothing-free hot springs caves!

    Also, I need to get a notebook like that: Things I Don't Give a Fuck About- snort! Love it!

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