I don't want to burden others with my sadness and despite being a TMI queen, something in me shrinks at making this experience any more public than it already is. One of the things I'm thankful for is that I wasn't far enough along for everyone at work to know, and I don't have to deal with pitying looks and awkward reactions every day. I can just pretend it never happened.
Which is what brought me to yesterday and several other moments of sudden, intense grief, where I find myself crying uncontrollably with little warning. Somehow I have to find a way to acknowledge my sadness without letting it consume me. When I laugh or have a good time somewhere, I feel horribly guilty. How can I be happy when my baby just died? Don't I care? Intellectually I know this isn't reasonable, but my heart needs to catch up with my head.
Most of all, I'd like to say a heartfelt thank you for all of the kind comments and messages you've sent me in the last few weeks. Your words really were a comfort to me, and I never thought I could feel so encouraged and supported by people I've known for such a short time, and haven't met in real life. Thank you!!
So a few weeks ago, I read this bizarre story that was too good to keep to myself. Here's a summary:
An economics professor is making the case for legal protections against looks-challenged people.
Writing an op-ed for the New York Times, University of Texas professor Daniel Hamermesh cites findings that good-looking people make more money, find higher-earning spouses, and get better mortgage deals. One study shows American workers assessed as being in the bottom seventh in terms of looks earn about $230,000 less in a lifetime than similar workers in the top third of looks.
How would legal decision-makers determine ugliness? It’s not that difficult, Hamermesh says. “For purposes of administering a law, we surely could agree on who is truly ugly, perhaps the worst-looking 1 or 2 percent of the population.”
Hamermesh goes on to cite a counterargument: Expanding rights to help another protected group would be a further drain on government resources, possibly reducing protections for other groups.
“You might reasonably disagree and argue for protecting all deserving groups,” Hamermesh says. “Either way, you shouldn’t be surprised to see the United States heading toward this new legal frontier.”
Obviously this is an entertaining piece of freakonomics, but if you think about it seriously, he does have a point. Maybe we could offer free plastic surgery to those who really got screwed in the gene pool, just to even things out. What do you think?