Sunday, November 18, 2012

10 things I learned in 2012

When I threw up this morning, the terrifying thought crossed my mind that I might have contracted the Egyptian flu (you know, where nine months later you're a mummy...groan). To my extreme relief, other unpleasant symptoms have made themselves known throughout the day, so I'm pretty sure I've just picked up a bug of some non-Egyptian kind.

This week's Monday Listicle topic was chosen by Kerstin at Auer Life.


Here are 10 things I learned in 2012:

1) I can type out a blog post in between dry heaves (see NaBloPoMo stubbornness below).

2) I still love my husband with all my heart.

3) Going from one child to two is a million times easier than going from none to one.

4) A book can still entrance me so that I don't want to put it down and can't stop reading it over and over again. Partly because I see a lot of myself in the heroine. Even if many people hate both the book and her.

5) Being nine months pregnant in August is as uncomfortable as it sounds.

6) Three months is not enough time to leave between a miscarriage and the next pregnancy. I'm not sure that any amount of time is enough.

7) Taking my anti-depressant medication isn't optional.

8) I no longer enjoy my career (or at least this specific job). I don't want to stay home alone with my kids with no help either, and I'm not willing to reduce our standard of living. I wish money would fall from the sky so that my husband and I could both not work, hire a nanny for regular date nights and hire a cleaner.

9) Having pets is more stress than enjoyment at this stage in my life.

10) My faith is really gone, and it makes a difference to acknowledge that out loud.

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  1. I agree with the kids thing along with the pets!

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    1. I found adjusting to my first child really difficult, so I'm so relieved it's been easier this time. A lot of people told me it would be harder and that hasn't been the case so far.

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  2. I actually found going from zero to one a lot easier than going from one to two!

    Now I feel like I have to go think about what I learned in 2012...not sure I learned ten things though. I guess I still have some time to learn a few things.

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    1. So many people told me that and I'm glad it hasn't been like that so far for me.

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  3. That's a great list. I too will have to take the time to figure out what I learned in 2012. I will probably be scrambling to learn new things in next few weeks. :S

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    1. I wonder if I'll need to do an update at the end of the year!

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  4. Agree, agree, agree...with all. Especially #4; favorite books where I live between the pages. A much needed escape from sucky reality...

    I also have to think about what I've learned this past year. Hopefully I can look back on something positive before 2013 comes knocking.

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    1. When people criticize a book as "escapist," I feel so confused. Isn't that the point?

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    2. The point definitely is to escape; same goes for the theatre, movies and music. Each is an avenue to another place in time or the world, at least for a short while. .

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  5. We have a bunch in common. 2-6 apply to me as well. Especially the no kids to one. That was a rough patch for me, for sure. As for #1, you are the dedicated one to vomit and blog at the same time. I'd rather curl up in a ball on the bathroom floor and not see the light of day until it's all over.

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    1. I'm determined to finish NaBloPoMo successfully and I'm more than halfway there. So I wasn't going to let a little throwing up stop me!

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  6. Go you on NaBloPoMo! I am finding it so hard but also won't quit. I'm blogging with a cold but that's probably not as bad as blogging between vomits. Hope you feel better soon! I also got pregnant with my now second son 3 months after a miscarriage. I hadn't had a period yet so I had no idea that would happen.

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    1. I don't know...I think writing would be harder with a bad headache than with nausea. Fortunately I was done my post by the time the headache kicked in. The last pregnancy was really stressful and I wonder if it would have been easier if I hadn't gotten pregnant so soon after miscarrying twins. But maybe it's normal to feel anxious after a loss, regardless of how much time has gone by.

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  7. I also hate that there isn't a magic money fairy. The home life choice is a tough one indeed.

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    1. I used to make fun of my husband for playing the lottery - I told him it was a tax on stupid people. He'd say, "You can't win if you don't play." Sounds about right.

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  8. Love this list so much I am not sure where to begin. Also I am nursing a baby who also has a stomach bug, which I just got over as I am reading this. Now she is asleep and I am stuck. Feel your stomach bug pain mama. Also the miscarriage thing. I have two kids and three losses. It sucks. I too am struggling with the career, stay at home balance. So much to relate to in this post. I know I missed some important ones. Great job as always. Lve to read your stuff. Feel better...

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    1. Thanks Stephanie - you're definitely one of my "blog twins" (Mary at A Teachable Mom used that the other day and I thought it was perfect). I'm feeling better today and I lost 3 pounds from being sick. I know it will come right back, but hurray for now!

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  9. So with you on #4 and #9 and so sorry to hear about #6. This was a great listicle!

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  10. You rock, mummy blogger, for typing through the dry heaves! I'm totally impressed!!

    Your #4 is why I can read "Pride and Prejudice" twice a year and savor it each time!! Seriously.

    (And I am so with you on one to two kids being so much easier than zero to one. SO TRUE!)

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    1. I love Pride and Prejudice, although I haven't read it for quite awhile. It's one of the few books where I enjoyed the movie (the BBC series, not the Hollywood one) so much that I tend to watch it instead of re-reading the book.

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  11. I know all about being pregnant in August. Lil Duck was born on a HOT August 25th. Super impressed with the writing between heaves. I detest the barfing disease!

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    1. My daughter was born at the end of June, and I tried to time the next one for earlier than that to avoid the hot season. Unfortunately life sometimes doesn't co-operate with our exact plans.

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  12. Sorry you are feeling puny. Hope things improve by Thursday. And with adding children, I once heard it was adding the odd numbers that will kill you. Going from 0 to 1, from 2 to 3 and from 4 to 5.

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    1. Oh, I have no intention of going past two...I feel like it's asking for trouble when the kids outnumber the adults. We can barely handle our two as it is.

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  13. Man, I hear ya on the pets thing. Our cat disappeared last year and I think I was more happy than sad. I mean, I was sad, but I was so happy not to deal with her pee and poop anymore. And you should totally promote your posts on Twitter. It's a great tool to get more readers. It's really helped me.

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    1. Thanks for the tip! Twitter wasn't as big a deal when I started, so I never really got into it, but it's worth a try.

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  14. Number 2 made me say, 'aw' and number 4 I agree with completely :)

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    1. I bet you know which book I was talking about too!

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  15. #3 - I'm pretty sure there's a whole advertising campaign going right now about this very thing. Well, it's probably for diapers or something.

    #8 - Amen! Wouldn't that be the life? Well, except for the kids. Not sure I want that.

    #10 - I think I need to read that post.

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    1. Haha! By all means, think hard about having kids. It's so much harder than you think it is, and not something to take on because you think you should or someone else wants you to. It's not like having a puppy - you can't back out if you change your mind.

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  16. Hey I love the idea of creating a list like this! We always talk about learning from out lessons but how often do people take a look back and really reflect on everything that has happened and all of the things that they have learned?

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    1. Every year there are memes like this in December. This one was early this year.

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  17. I don't mean to sound preachy. Really. While your faith may be gone, man oh man does He love you more than you could possibly fathom. He is always faithful, even when we are not.
    And yes, if you see money falling from the sky, could you grab some for me too? Not too thrilled with my job either ;)

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    1. Can you imagine if it rained money? Maybe just in a few little places so inflation didn't get out of control. We can dream.

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  18. Oh I can only imagine last month of pregnancy in August. Hope your mystery bug is all gone.

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Lend me some sugar!