Monday, January 21, 2013

Blank walls

A few weeks ago I decided to clean up my Facebook friend list. The cousin-in-law who excluded us from her wedding guest list but invited everyone else in the family, then posted daily recaps of every minute detail of her wedding and reception for a month? Gone. The self-righteous mother who posts stuff like this every day?


Gone. Motherhood is hard enough without having to put up with someone who has mistaken it for a competition. The drama queen whose status flips between "engaged" to "single" to "my new boyfriend has the biggest cock ever!"? She stayed for her entertainment value.

I also went through and checked my privacy settings for everyone. Limited profile is a wonderful thing: you don't have the awkwardness of ignoring an inappropriate friend request from someone you don't want to offend, because you can just add them to your list of people who see nothing but your name and a blank wall should they actually look at your Facebook page.

Some people were on this list from the beginning, like my former boss turned back-stabbing co-worker. Others were casual work friends who now report directly to me, and I no longer feel comfortable with them seeing all the details of my personal life. It made me laugh when I went to a few people's pages to set them to "limited profile" and saw they had done the same. I happily deleted those people with no hard feelings; obviously our acquaintance had run its course.

With all this maintenance work and exposure to frenemies, why do I bother with Facebook at all? Despite the negatives, I like having the opportunity to keep up with friends I might otherwise lose touch with due to distance or just our busy lives. I work full-time (on maternity leave right now) and have two kids under the age of three, so there isn't much time for in-person socializing.

Facebook also helps me keep up with my family, who isn't very close. My sister is three years younger than me and my brother six years. I've often felt sad as I've gotten older to realize most families have a closer bond than ours. Growing up I didn't know that other kids heard "I love you" more often than once a year or that some mothers hugged their children every day. I just thought that all families were cold and distant.

When I first started blogging, I secretly hoped that my blog might open conversations with my family and help us get to know each other as adults. What I didn't realize is that they didn't want to know me. One day when I mentioned a post, my mother turned to me and said, "I'm never going to read your blog. That's not how I communicate. If you want to tell me something, you'll have to call me and tell me." I switched to an anonymous blog and moved on. At least there was still Facebook.

Having finished my Facebook clean-up that day, I decided to catch up with some family members, leaving a "happy birthday" on a cousin's wall, admiring my sister's new shoes and smiling at another cousin's new baby pictures. I wondered what my brother was up to and clicked over to his page.

His wall was blank.

I stared at the screen, hitting "refresh" a few times in case Internet Explorer had forgotten to load part of the page again. The wall remained blank, a silent slap across the face.

It's OK, I guess. We're not close anyway.

So why does it hurt so much?

 
Update: After a few people asked whether I was sure my brother didn't just post infrequently, I decided to go look at his page again. The blank wall came up as I remembered and I felt a twinge of sadness again. As I went to close the tab, my hand brushed the touchpad and the auto scroll came on, rolling the window down to show 2008-2012, all 28 posts. The stupid Facebook timeline makes it look like the wall is blank if there are no recent posts - it used to show the most current post at the top no matter how old it was.
 
I have been laughing at my dumbass self ever since. I'm so glad I didn't say anything to him and have him show me this. I would never live it down.

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  1. I've been on a Facebook 'sabbatical' of sorts, except for my bday and the day after to thank folks for kind wishes, but quite honestly? I have NOT missed it. When I got back on after the 1st on the 15th-16th to go through my birthday wishes, I perused the wall a bit and realized I had not missed a thing. Not a thing. To think that I actually wiled the time away wasting time on it slays me now. I can't get that time back. So I am thinking that I may do the friends list whittling and the more closed settings and just keep up with the folks I want to keep up with, and let all the rest go.

    I am sorry you've been hurt. I can imagine how that would.

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    1. I don't post on it much, since I have my blog to get everything out. But it's become a habit to check it, even though it's usually just a list of what people are making for dinner. I should stop looking at it unless I have a notification from someone.

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  2. That sucks :( *hugs*
    It seems that damaged familial relationships are the worst and most destructive of all. And I guess it hurts so much because it's meant to be so amazing when it goes right.

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    1. You're right - it actually bothers me more as an adult, because I have a better sense of what a family should be.

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    2. That makes complete sense. The harder thing still is to let go of the fantasy of 'what should have been' and cope with the pain of what is.

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  3. My sister is 4 years younger than me and lives on the opposite side of the country-- we are also on opposite sides of the political spectrum-- anyhoots-- if I had a dollar for everytime she got pissed off at me and blocked me, or wrote some stupid shit on Facebook-- I'd have at least 50 bucks. That being said-- her and I are getting along splendidly as of late-- but, I also deleted (for the third and final time) my Facebook account. I'm related to some pretty ridiculous people (umm like seeing my partners 21 year old sister with 4 kids liking pages like "Sex Feels Good"-- UM NO GROSS)-- So, though I will miss being able to see photos from the group of individuals that I actually enjoyed on Facebook-- for me, there are waaaay too many negatives to go back! I'm so sorry about your brother-- he is clearly up to a few things that he may be embarassed by/trying to hide from people? Maybe it's nothing personal... but as someone who is also not close to her littler brother-- I understand the hurt :( I'm sorry people are so lame sometimes!

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    1. Well, you would not believe the things Jay's cousin posts on Facebook. The "cock" comment was just a sample. I considered deleting her but she's too trashy to look away. I feel like I have a front row seat to Jerry Springer. The rest of Jay's family is perfectly normal - it's just this one freak.

      She actually had an abortion last year because she didn't want to have two babies by two different fathers. Maybe some fucking birth control would be nice if that's how you feel (she didn't use any)!

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  4. Re: your Mom's comment about your blog... ouch. I can understand her point but she certainly didn't say it in the nicest of ways.

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    1. I didn't expect her to read it regularly, but it hurt my feelings that I would tell her about something really important to me, and her response was all about her. As usual.

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  5. When I read this "my new boyfriend has the biggest cock ever!" My first thought was I'd keep that as a FB friend - I WISH my friends were as interesting. I have very few fb friends (I try not to be tracked down) and talk regularly to about 8. Are you sure your brother just doesn't post anything? I find my male friends (except 2) are not very avid users. Maybe he just set it up and didn't bother again?

    As for the blog, I actually haven't shared what I write with anyone I know in real life. My theory is I am not big enough to hear from a close friend if it's no good, and it's annoying for them to have to tell me it's good or comment all the time. I came to this decision when another friend who writes said "I wonder who all these so called friends are that never comment", and I realised she had an expectation that we were obliged to read and comment. I didn't want to be that person (and I probably would be). Rather rely on the kindness of strangers....

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    1. Haha! That's exactly why I kept her - pure entertainment value. And you were right about my brother! I'm still laughing at myself.

      I love blogging anonymously. It's the best thing I've done since I started blogging. Your friend's comment surprised me - I wouldn't have expected anyone to comment regularly. It made me sad that no one wanted to stop by even once.

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  6. The only option from here forward is to build your own close family.

    I kind of agree with Lydia, above, are you sure he just doesn't Facebook a lot.? I've posted plenty of things that I didn't know had defaulted to "restricted" to one group or another. Just wondering. Hope it's not that he's ignoring and just that he's a Facebook dummy.

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    1. Shauna, you and Lydia were right - I updated the post with my stupidity. I'm relieved both that he didn't block me and that my family will never know about this to make fun of me!

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  7. Ouch. I can sympathize a little - my sister uses her FB page for her personal and professional advancement, and so she's vicious about untagging photos or mentions of her by others if they don't add to her narrative. I was super pissed when I tagged her in a wonderful photo of the grandkids with our then-96-yr-old Grandma, and she deleted it and told me never to tag her again. Sigh. So much drama.

    My Mom reads my blog, which is both good and bad. I love that she gets to enjoy my writing and learn about my life and my perspective on shared memories, but then again, I'm afraid to write things that may hurt her. It's a fine line.

    I use FB to stay in touch with my Canadian family, hundreds of miles away, so I can't delete it... I'm scared to click on some people's names for fear of finding myself "limited", so I just don't take that risk.

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    1. Wow! I don't think Facebook is a good platform for advancement of any kind - I'd stick to professional networks like LinkedIn. What's wrong with a picture of you with an elderly relative? Strange.

      I've come around to see it as a huge benefit that no one other than my husband has my blog name and address. It is a fine line as you said, and I'm glad I don't have to worry about it anymore.

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  8. I'm with Lydia, I wish some of my friends wrote about their new boyfriend and his monster cock instead of complaining all the friggen time. I have a love/hate relationship with FB. I love knowing what's going on in peoples' lives who I probably would have lost touch with other wise, but sometimes the shit I see people post makes me close to having a coronary. Like last week when people were posting about Newtown, CT Conspiracy Theories... ugh. And I also have family members that don't speak because of passive aggressive FB posts. And I think that's the problem with FB. We are able to make our lives an open book to a point and then in one click of a button we are able to put up the brick (Facebook) wall.

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    1. I saw that Newtown thing too and couldn't believe it! What the hell is wrong with people? As if those families don't have enough to deal with.

      Your last line is brilliant. I completely agree. I prefer blogging any day.

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  9. I just found out a niece of mine blocked me on FB. There's a long history of drama with her and her family, but I was stil left hurt and angry about it. Wtf? I wouldn't just DO that to someone without it being an effort to hurt, which could very well be her intention. Sigh. I decided afterward that I was going to take a close look at my friend list and clean things up/change settings.

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    1. Ugh, that sucks. I felt a lot better after I cleaned up my list (well, other than the apparent limited by my brother, which turned out not to even be true).

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  10. I cleaned up my list recently and basically unfriended anyone I hadn't spoken to in the time since I have used Facebook. I mainly only use FB to enter competitions and post in closed groups, so it was more to relieve them of having my spam come up in their feeds All the time - I was doing them a service :)

    Hello from #teamIBOT

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    1. That's a really good approach to use. I may consider it one of these days.

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  11. I love cleaning up my FB friends list! I refuse to have someone of my FB that wouldn't even say hi to me if they saw me in public. I also know how it can sting a little when someone close to you doesn't want to read your blog. I mean, it's just a blog but at the same time reading it shows that you want to stay updated on my life. I'm glad your brother didn't block you :)

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    1. I'm realizing as I read this that I wouldn't even recognize some of the people on my Facebook list if I saw them in public! Now that is ridiculous. Blogging is one thing, but my Facebook account is supposed to be just for people I know in person. Guess my clean up wasn't as thorough as I thought.

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  12. Agh Facebook! It always seems to cause more trouble than it's really worth. I admit I had to get back on it in order to have a business page (and of course to use pinterest). But I left Facebook and swore against it for almost three years! I find the best way to manage it is do exactly what you did, and only get on when you absolutely have to. :) great post!

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    1. Three years - that's great! Did you re-open a personal account when you did your business page? I don't know if I could quit completely, but it sure is troublesome at times.

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  13. That does suck.. big time, might save you some more angst down the track though.
    I reckon a good Facebook clean is good for the soul. I have whittled down my 'friends' so much, in fact about to do it again, the way I do it is if they haven't commented or liked or contributed in the past 6 months/year, then they shouldn't be privy to my amazing life! Emily @ Have a laugh on me x

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    1. There are still people on my list that it gives me an unpleasant feeling just to see their names. My clean-up is obviously not done - the commenters on this post have inspired me!

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  14. My own sister deleted me from facebook. She got mad at me after my wedding - I still have no idea why - trash talked me all over facebook and then removed me as a friend. I'm now down to 33 friends. Darn.

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    1. Ouch. That is NOT cool - I'm sorry to hear that. The numbers thing...whatever. Not unlike blogging, I don't want a bunch of "friends" who never talk to me.

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  15. Oh my gosh my heart dropped into my chest when I read that part about your brother. SO glad you went back to double check. Also glad I'm not the only one who has blonde moments...without being blonde!

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    1. I've been accused an embarrassing number of times of having blonde roots under this dark brown hair. Hey, I got the book smarts...it's just the common sense nature forgot to hand out when I was in line.

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  16. I'm glad your brother didn't put you on limited profile! I have a love/hate relationship with FB. It may be time to do some spring cleaning or limited profiling again. As you probably guessed, I have unfriended my mother, though I don't think I blocked her. I know my sister did, too, but she did it long before the falling out. She got tired of my mom leaving her comments telling her not to drink so much or use such bad language. lmao!!!

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    1. My mother is a Facebook snob and refuses to use it. If she did, she would definitely be on limited profile. I think it's a little different with your parent vs your sibling. There are some things you might never want your parents to see or know about!

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  17. My sister unfriended me long before we stopped communicating. Then a month or so ago, she & her husband sent me a friend request. I debated the request for a few days, then bam, it was rescinded.

    I need to do a friends clean out as well. #ICLW35

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    1. I didn't even know you could rescind a friend request. Awkward! It's sad reading these comments and seeing how many people have had family members block them, and they didn't even know why. Ugh.

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  18. I've gone off FB in a big way, would much rather catch up with interesting blogs :)

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    1. Me too. I use it so much less ever since I started blogging.

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  19. I'm glad that you figured out your brother's wall, but I'm sorry you and your family aren't close. :(

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    1. It sucks but I'm OK with it most of the time. Every once in awhile something happens that hurts, but I usually get over it pretty quickly.

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  20. I've been having my own little facebook thoughts lately. It's a funny world isn't it?
    My family aren't close at all either, and I think its sad that it actually doesn't bother me that much

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    1. Having kids has caused some mixed feelings, because we come into contact a lot more now. It's good for the kids, but not great for my mental health. I put it aside because I want my kids to know their grandparents.

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  21. I'm on Facebook quite a bit, but NOT to post such nonsense as "At the Olive Garden today and yes, I'm treated like family!" or "Love sunrises. With tequila in them." or "Pooped today and lovin' it!" I mostly use Facebook to play Words With Friends, keep up with family members (we're still talking-so far) from a few states away, and to post [what I think are] funny pictures (surprised?).
    Oh, I also have a Facebook account using my real name.
    I really should get out more.

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    1. I keep hearing about Words With Friends. Am I missing out on something here? I stopped playing Facebook games when you started having to give the applications full access to your account, just to find out you were a horse or an eagle or whatever. But this game sounds like something I'd really like.

      I only have one Facebook account and I think that's plenty. I've resisted the temptation so far to open one under my blog name. Actually I had one under my old blog name, but I never used it anyway. I should probably close it.

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  22. Yes, I do have my issues with Facebook too. Family members which I don't really want to have contact with sending me friends request and I don't know what to do about it. Once, my uncle got really upset with me because I was not answering his messages saying that he missed me. After I told him that I was always acknowledging him by a "like" or another message, he went to check back and saw I was telling the truth. Seriously, I felt like saying, at least if you want to use Facebook learn how to use it...

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    1. Wow...he must be offended by a lot of people in that case! You really should have said that, in a more diplomatic way of course :)

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  23. Oh, I would have been sad about the brother thing too. Glad to read your update. I actually didn't know about the privacy settings you can use with your facebook "friends". I'm pretty comfortable ignoring Facebook requests from 'random' people though! I must say, despite some of the frustrations, I am well and truly a Facebook junkie.

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    1. Facebook makes its privacy settings very difficult to find and use. I think they would prefer that everyone kept their entire profile public to the world. Um, no. I do sometimes get friend requests from people I'm sure I don't know. It's pretty weird and I just ignore them.

      I think I'm a junkie too. Still, I spend most of my online time on my blog now. Much more interesting and engaging.

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  24. Good for you for cleaning up your FB friends, etc. It is freeing to get rid of some people that were almost like obligation type friends. I would have felt that way about my brother too if I had gotten a blank wall; glad you figured it out though! I like FB for family to keep up with and the games of course :)

    betty

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    1. That's exactly how it feels - like an obligation, which is ridiculous because I'd bet most of those people wouldn't even notice if I dropped them. When I'm done answering comments, I'm going to go do another clean-up right now!

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  25. When I first opened a facebook account I had a policy of not adding someone I wouldn't speak to if I ran into them. If i hadn't seen the person for a few year I sent a message to touch base, find out what they've been up to and unfriend them if i didn't hear back from them. So my friend list was never overflowing with people I barely knew. But as the years go on I'm spending less and less time there and have often wondered why I bother at all. I never post status updates, I rarely post photos and increasingly use it to sticky beak.

    Thanks for the great post! Very interesting :)

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    1. Thanks Krystle. Some of the people on my list are people I added when Facebook first took off, and everyone was just excited to find a name they recognized at all. If I wouldn't add them today, I should probably remove them.

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  26. I try to purge losers from my friends list on a quarterly basis. I find it therapeutic and very much needed.

    I am glad to hear that your brother had not blocked you :)

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    1. I'm relieved too. Quarterly purging sounds good. Sometimes they purge themselves, but other times you need to assist them.

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  27. I'm not close to my only brother either - we don't have that much in common and are happy enough to see each other once a year or so. We are friends on facebook so that helps us both stay in touch in between. I've never done a huge facebook cull but I should certainly check my privacy settings again...

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    1. I'm OK with not being closer to my brother, because as you said, we don't have much in common. It did hurt my feelings to think he wouldn't want me to know anything about his life though. I'm glad it was just my ditziness rearing its ugly head.

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  28. I need to have a FB friend cull. I often wonder why I accepted some of the requests I have. I'm sure they just want to sticky beak (which I am partial do doing too). I haven't explored enough to see if anyone has me on a limited profile. Glad your brothers feed wasn't a limited one :)

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    1. I've never actually gone looking to see who has me on limited profile before either, but Facebook has set up their privacy settings in a convoluted way that forces you to go to someone's page to change the setting. Ugh. So annoying.

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  29. Good old Facebook playing lovely games again!
    I try to not take anything too personally on facebook... even from family (well the 3 members I have anyway ;)).
    A good cull is great for the soul! x

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    1. Yes, it is! I actually went through last night and deleted another batch I had left in the first time around.

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  30. I love a good clean out. I recently blogged about the heat I got from defriending a racist cousin.
    I am strict with my FB privacy and do not use at all for blogging or have the intention to set one up for my blog!

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    1. I'll have to check out your post - sounds interesting! I keep my online identity for my blog/twitter/pinterest completely separate from my Facebook account, which is in my real name. It's what works for me.

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  31. I'm a bit of a Facebook fan and have recently reconnected with a whole group of old school friends so it's been great BUT I really hate how it can cause so many problems for people. Your update was a huge relief though - I'm so glad your brother hadn't done that to you and hey, we all need a trashy Facebook Friend to keep life entertaining ;)
    x

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    1. There are people I've really enjoyed re-connecting with, and at least one friend who is now back in my life on a regular basis because of Facebook. But the fringe people need to go.

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  32. I'm so addicted to FB and I'm not proud. I tried to go through and get rid of everyone I wouldn't invite over for a cuppa but I would have been deleting some 200 people that provide mild amusement.
    I do need to curtail my usage. It's bad enough that I give a shit at all about these randoms, but do I really need to give a shit so many times a day????
    Loving you via ibot

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    1. Well, that's the thing. I should delete Trashy Girl but she entertains me, so she stays.

      It is addictive - I find myself popping over just to see what's going on (usually nothing) way more often than I'd like to admit.

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  33. I deleted SOOOOOOO many people a while ago! I got sick of knowing about people that I really didnt care for. Totally recommended xx

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  34. Omgggosh,
    you have guts. I have only deleted one person, but have kept all of the others. Even if somebody has another political view, I'm like, "Who cares."

    ....but I get it about your cousin-in-law. What an Asswipe!

    Xxx Keep writing

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    1. I'm OK with people having different views (I do have a blog, after all), but Facebook isn't a good forum for political or philosophical debates. If someone posts extreme things all the time, I delete them or hide their feed from view. I want to be in a reflective mood and go looking for different perspectives (ie visiting blogs), not have it shoved in my face every morning.

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  35. We just CANNOT with people who view motherhood as a competition. This reminds me that I need to take better advantage of the different settings than I do...and to clean out my "friends" list as I see fit. Why do I keep people that enrage me??

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    1. That is exactly the question I asked myself. Why am I subjecting myself to these people? Most of them are now gone from my list. Unfortunately deleting some people would cause more drama than it's worth, so I just put them on limited profile instead.

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  36. I've been thinking I'm due for a friends list clean-up one of these days, or at least an update to my privacy settings, but honestly, every time I go on to try and do this I either get distracted or decide how much I don't want to deal with Facebook's ultra confusing privacy page.

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    1. It is so confusing! It's a lot easier to just delete someone.

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  37. OK, I am glad you figured out the "FB brother thing," but still...the rest of your post made me shudder. With empathy, not hostility, obviously. Glad you got rid of the riffraff. Some people suck. And that thing your mom said to you gave me chills. In a bad way. You are so awesome for sharing all this stuff with us. Hey, I noticed you didn't have the "Versatile Blogger" award on your sidebar...mind if I give you one? :)

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    1. Aw thanks, Stephanie! I did get that award under my old blog name, but that was a long time ago. I'd love to get a new one :) Thank you!

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    2. I am dying to know what your old blog was, but I won't pry. (Oh, wait, I guess I just did...) ;)
      Awesome...I'm all over it!

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    3. Haha! I just imported the old blog into this one and scrubbed most of the identifying stuff from old posts. So the only things that changed were the names and url. In some of my old comments people call me by my previous name, but I just left them there. If someone wants to track me down that badly, I'll deal with that then

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  38. I think I'm too nice about whom I choose to not unfriend. Surely it's not possible that there are over 300 people that I actually give a crap about! Who knows. I couldn't agree with you more!

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    1. I feel bad when I unfriend someone too or stop following a blog, but I'm starting to get over it. If we don't click, we don't click. It's no reflection on either of us.

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  39. I'm so glad I've popped over from ICLW! This has been such a helpful post and so have all the comments. I suspended my account about a year ago and I've been thinking about coming back after a good old fashioned purge. You ladies have given me lots of ideas!

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    1. Glad you enjoyed! Good luck with your Facebook decision :)

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  40. How wonderful that all was not as you thought. I am in a FB pickle at the moment, wondering if someone has done something or whether it is just stupid FB not working properly. Sigh

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    1. I'm not sure if it's just me, but Facebook seems to be especially glitchy lately. I don't see status updates from many of my friends, but when I go onto their page, there they are. I don't have them hidden from my news feed and they're good friends, so I know I'm not on a restricted list or anything. It's very strange.

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  41. I am from ICLW! OMG. You are so funny! Love your blog! I too clean up my FB page often-- and my profile is in lock down mode. I use it to keep up with family and old friends. Mostly family. I was keeping them up to date with my infertility stuff until I started a blog. ;-) can't wait to follow along with your posts!

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    1. Thanks for joining up Teresa! My profile is private too - I'm not interested in starting a Facebook page for my blog, although that seems to be the fad right now.

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  42. Must have been the week for clean up. I did the same thing and for the most part it felt good. I am still on the fence about those I allowed to remain (yes, allowed. Its a control thing. Let me run with it) for entertainment's sake.

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    1. It felt so good that I went through and did my blog reader too. I'll lose a bunch of followers when they notice I've stopped following them, but I'm tired of having posts that don't interest me clogging up my reader.

      There are so many great blogs out there that I don't get to as often as I'd like already. I don't need their posts buried in a flood of posts I don't want to read. It's nothing personal to those people. They're mainly people whose blogs I joined because I had to in order to participate in a blog hop. I'm over that.

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  43. About a month ago I went through a FB purge too. I said "bye" to 200 "friends" and it took forever (there has to be an easy way to do this right?) . Seriously - I am not sure that even half of these people would say hello to me if I saw them down the street. So they had to go. I don't want to collect "friends".

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    1. Wow, that is a big purge! I completely agree: no "friend" collecting here either.

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  44. Great post. I recently hid the posts of a coworker who keeps posting things that are extremely anti-gun control (pro gun). I couldn't stand it, so I hid her rather than unfriend her.

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    1. Yeah, that kind of thing really bugs me. I don't mind a good debate, but I'd like to choose when I'm going to have one, not have it pushed in my face on a site where I just wanted to look at someone's baby pictures.

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  45. I hear you on feeling sad and hurt over family interactions. Your conversation with your mom sounds really hard. Thank you for sharing this - I'm inspired to do my own Facebook clean up (right after I clean out clothes/toys/tchotchkes/junk drawers). Great post!

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    1. I'm on a huge decluttering kick right now. It's really helping reduce my stress level. I highly recommend it!

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  46. I resisted FB forever..really because I didnt have the time for it. since the beginning of the school yr I have had more time and I cannot believe how I got so sucked in! and the friends I thought were friends are not really and the relatives I thought shared my views not really either. maybe a blessing in disguise, but I was happier before I knew this....
    I am your newest follower..

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    1. Sometimes ignorance really is bliss. Thanks for joining up!

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  47. Hello from ICLW! I cleaned up my Facebook this year. It feels great.

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  48. I was very happy to read your post script. I like happy endings and it was really sad before that.

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    1. I felt so relieved! I love a happy ending too.

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  49. Facebook is such an odd beast. I do love getting rid of people - it took me awhile to get off of the add-add-add kick and really think "OK, I haven't talked to this person in 10 years, probably for a reason..." - and then the purging feels really nice. I just wish FB would add a feature where you could hide all pictures that aren't taken by the user. That would be spectacular. :D

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    1. Yeah, a lot of the people I removed were people I added in the initial excitement of using Facebook, without thinking about whether I really wanted to re-connect with that person.

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