Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Priceless

Recently I read a post called "My Life in Numbers" that I really liked. The concept of exploring life in terms of numbers has been going around the web and I decided to join in. Here's my take:

Five 12-year-old Christian girls sitting in a row at Bible camp, giggling and poking each other while the camera flashes. Our parents are pastors and worship leaders, our lives like carbon copies of each other in a steady rhythm of sermons, youth group meetings and ministry outreach.

Twenty-two years pass.

We are two blondes, a former blonde, a brunette and one who can't remember what her real hair colour is anymore.

Our jeans range from size 4 to 20.

We have three tattoos, two navel rings, a nose stud, a grown-in tongue stud and too many ear piercings to count.

Three of us married our high school sweethearts, two of us married our college sweethearts and one of us divorced her husband last year after a decade of his drug abuse and serious mental illness, including two suicide attempts.

We have nine living children ranging from an eight-week-old boy to a fifteen-year-old girl, and six babies who never made it to our arms.

Two of us are stay at home moms, one is an urban planner, one is an accountant and one is a community centre co-ordinator in a low-income neighbourhood.

Our household annual incomes have ranged from $30,000 to $140,000, and when one of us suffered through a year of her husband's unemployment while she was on maternity leave, we left a bundle of cash in her front door. No names on the card: we didn't want her to feel awkward.

We are a pastor's wife, a worship leader, two agnostics and an atheist.

Five 34-year-old women sitting in a circle, sharing stories and unyielding support.

We are best friends forever.
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I've written in the past about my less-than-favourable views on female friendship. These women are the exception to the rule and I treasure them.

Update: Today I'm doing a fun blogfest at L.G. Keltner's Writing on the Edge (see badge on right sidebar). It's her first blogoversary and the theme is "beginnings". I actually linked up a different post there, but it occurred to me just now that this post is about beginnings too, so I thought I'd mention the blogfest here as well.

46 comments:

  1. it's beautiful to have friendships like that which don't require you to agree on everything. sometimes common history is enough to be the glue that holds you together.

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    1. It's hard to forge friendships that can withstand these types of differences. I'm so thankful for them.

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  2. It's amazing to see how we change through the years. I'm glad you all still have each other.

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    1. Writing this post brought home how much we've all changed. You just don't know where life will take you.

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  3. I just love this, especially since I just read your *other* post on female friendships. Love the numbers part, too...I'm feeling inspired!

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    1. It was a fun post to write - glad you enjoyed it!

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  4. I LOVE this! SO awesome, it's actually inspired me to do a numbers post myself! Here's to many more years of great friendship!! :)

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    1. Thanks Azra! Looking forward to reading your post.

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  5. Fascinating concept. Wish I had friends who went back that far. Returning your visit from Beginnings Blogging.

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    1. The older I get, the more I realize how lucky I am to have these childhood friends.

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  6. Love, love, love how you gave her that money. It warms my heart just thinking of that.

    Great post too. :)

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    1. I wish we could have done more, but it was the best we could do at the time.

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  7. This is a great post. It's fascinating when you look at life by the numbers. I may have to do a numbers post in the future!

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    1. Thanks Laura. I loved the concept the first time I saw it too.

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  8. This is amazing! I don't have many friends that go back that far, but this is a fascinating concept!

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    1. Thanks MarlaJan! Friends like this are rare and bring such a valuable perspective to life.

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  9. I've never been a big fan of numbers, but this is a great post and a wonderful story of friendship. Thanks for sharing!

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  10. This is a great post. I love female friendships that work. The ones that really do are treasues for sure.

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    1. Usually they're so dysfunctional. These ladies are always a soft place to land.

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  11. This was such a beautiful post that I actually read it out loud to my husband and choked up so much on the last line that I embarrassed myself and couldn't finish.

    I have often wondered if friendships like this exist outside of books. I haven't been lucky enough to experience one myself, so I really wasn't sure. It was very heartening to see this proof. I read the post three times to tell you the truth. I was pretty blown away by the whole idea of it.

    Especially the different faiths. I know that's a really huge thing in people's lives, and the fact that you don't care if someone is agnostic or Christian or even atheist speaks HUGE volumes about the kind of people you must all be.

    I don't know you, but I envy you and I'm glad that you realize how lucky you are. I think what you have here is really rare and perfect and amazing and I'm so glad I read this post. It really, really touched me.

    It's not that often I read a blog post that actually changes my life view on something. This one did. Thank you.

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    1. What a wonderful compliment! You made my week. Thank you!

      We haven't always been close and have even lost touch with one or the other for a few years. But we've always ended up together again and now we get together monthly to catch up. Next month we're even going away for a girls' weekend - I can't wait.

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    2. That's really awesome. It's seriously like something in a movie. Did you ever see Now and Then. I love that movie!! Where are you guys getting together?

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    3. I love that movie and thought of it when I was trying to decide on a title for the post. We're going to Niagara Falls (we live in Ontario so it's not too far for us). Most of us have toddlers so it will be a relaxing getaway.

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  12. I love this post, it's so touching to see genuine friendships lasting so long, especially between such different people.

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    1. There's something special about the friends who knew you before you became what you are now.

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  13. Oh wow, this made me cry. Isn't life an adventure...I wonder how I made it without tatoos and body piercings (well, I have my ears pierced, once in each ear...I'm living in the fast lane)...but my step father is a pastor, know what that's like. Seriously, this was very touching. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. Thanks so much. It surprises me still that we went in such different directions from the same starting point.

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  14. I felt myself visualizing you all growing older-- and your parents and everyone like flowers but not.

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  15. Wow. You are so lucky to have forged such wonderful friendships when you were young - and that they continue today. Beautiful post.

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    1. I'm glad these friends remained in my life. Growing up you think your closest friends will be in your life forever, but of course that's not the case.

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  16. love love love this. gave me goosebumps and made me tear up. i could see each and every face and event unfolding. lovely.

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    1. Thank you so much. I wondered if it felt too distant, so I'm glad it touched you.

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  17. This is such a touching portrayal of friendship! I really enjoyed this and your linked post as well. So glad to meet you through the Beginnings blogfest!

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    1. Thanks Julie. Glad to meet you as well!

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  18. Amazing post about friendship. It made me smile. Thank you for sharing.

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    1. Thanks for visiting. Glad you enjoyed this post.

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  19. Wonderful! I love this view of women who have grown together, their beginnings and their current places. Makes me want to do that with my group that I've grown with.

    Shannon at The Warrior Muse

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    1. You should - I'd love to read another group's stories!

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  20. I really love this. It is so beautiful how friendship can span such time, so many joys and heartaches, so much love.

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    1. You don't realize when you're younger how important those friendships will be if you can grow together instead of apart. Thanks for visiting.

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  21. LOVED this! I have friendships like this in my life. I'm very grateful for them.

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    1. I hope everyone has at least one person like this in their life. It's so grounding.

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